We judge ourselves by our intentions. What we meant by the words or actions. Why we cut the person off rushing to an important appointment. The reason we missed a deadline or made mistake and what was going on behind the scenes in our lives.
But we judge others by their actions. How dare they speak to me in that tone? The maniac on the road driving selfishly. The zero tolerance for the mistake or unfulfilled commitment.
What if we chose to exclusively do one or the other? Judge both ourselves and others by the same standard. Giving them the benefit of the doubt when they make a mistake or being willing to live a life where we never make a mistake or fail or come up short.
Having Grace with others and seeking to understand why they are behaving the way they are behaving gives us the power and perspective to break the cycle.
Rather than treating others as they deserve but treating them with dignity honor and respect they haven’t earned gives them an identity to begin to live up to.
Give and establish identity through grace. Together we can change the entire cultural identity.